maybe i could do it in a language any of my readers dont understans.. but then what would be the point?!
So today id like to share with you something ive learned from my own life with the past few weeks. and ill call it To-Do List to spare yourself from bunchanothin'/'fail's ':
1. Anyhow yesterday i had this deep convo with Andreas ab things to change ab myself. And lets just say it was very refreshing. you should do it. ask a person who knows you the best and who you know wont lie to you..and let them tell you what you need to change ab urself. how else u gonna find out these things. Well im glad we came to realise with Andu that what i need to change ab myself is what we all Kotsjuba kids kinda need to change ab ourselves :D so im glad im not in this alone :D
2. Now..the next thing on my mind is..make sure u have someone next to you who will be there for you to guide you out from a mess...if you feel everything has kinda run together and you just DONNO what you must do to find a way out and start from somewhere. that person has to be honest with you meaning they have to be able to tell EVERYTHING to ur face and they must share the same perspectives on life with you otherwise they'll guide u to even deeper mess (actually nad God is the one to guide you that person is the one to support you in where God is leading you)
3. Dont trust people who tell you to trust them and then ask to share your life in full extent..right away. Im not telling they have problems with keeping a secret (they might tho) BUT they have problems with staying and continuing to be your friend after you tell them ab your life and ur secrets. sometimes its good to have a person you dont know so well to talk to and hear their opinion BUT just be careful with what you say and when you say it. if a person wants to skip all the steps a friendship takes to build then just so you know they'll skip the steps what it takes to stay. yeah i know it might kinda sound bitter but thats what i experienced so im trying to spare you from it
4. ONe thing that im reallllly batteling myself right now is finding joy again. Yes my last blogs were ab how amazingly God has blessed me with an amazing job etc BUT as it shows its not what brings you joy. so make sure (if you've lost it) you do everything to find it again cos thats the fuel for having stenght to keep on fighting, and especially..to keep on DREAMING and dreaming is a big part of how we find the right path and do what we're called to do in life. it all starts with a dream and if the dream is too big then it must be from God (as i've found out for myself)!
5. Ask for forgiveness. I remember the first time i was in the States visiting my relatives and my cousin told me i ask for forgiveness too often. He said: "we are relatives, you dont have to say you're sorry" but no i think we do. cos people might get you wrong or might not get your jokes or there can be so many more things. so its ALWAYS safer to say you're sorry hundreds of times a day than not do it and have so many ppl get hurt (accidently).
6. Dont play with your emotions/heart! ohh thats a big one. someone should've told it to me b4 i started doing it. well but its not too late to teach ab this ;) :D..if there's something you want but know you cant or just wont ever get/have...STAY AWAY from it! whatever or maybe whoever it is! one day you'll realise what a waste of time it was and you wont get your heart nor your time back..so..stop now b4 u get too into this crap!
7. Here's one more..do not say a word before you feel you are calm. you'll save a lot of ppl from getting hurt. not just that you wont say bad things to someone but youre VOICE and tone of voice will be calm and that always has bigger effect on the other person than the words!
If you didnt know but there's a syndrome called ABW (angry black women). You can do the work of imagining how does an ABW look like and i think you dont wanna be like that.
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Eelviimane punkt on liiga tõsi, et tõsi olla... :)
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